Getting to Geraghty: My Engagement Story!

Welcome back! If you’ve been following me, you know I got engaged in May of this year, May 12th to be exact! It was a day full of more love than I could ever imagine or put into words. Today is a post that I’ve been going back and forth about sharing, but figured- why not! I’ll break up the post with the setup, the day it happened, what I learned after the fact, and my ring. 

Leading Up To The Big Day In the beginning of the year, we were going through a lot. Between changing jobs, Dan being a bone marrow donor, and traveling constantly, we were burnt out. Dan knows how much I’ve been missing home and surprised me with plane tickets back to Rochester for Mother’s Day weekend! I was ecstatic that I actually cried. I couldn’t wait to be home and just spend time with family.  When I pack to go home I like living in yoga pants and comfy shirts, well because I’m home. This time around I was told we would be doing a brunch on Saturday so I packed a few nice things.
I flew into Rochester and couldn’t wait to see the kitchen remodel my Godparents completed. While I was there, my Godmother gave me a present for our pup. I wanted to show Dan so I went to Facetime him and he didn’t answer. He finally called me back and told me he was at a sports bar with some friends. Honestly I hate traveling without him to see family, so I missed him. That same day we spent some girl time getting our nails done and I skipped on a trim…which I still regret, but it is what it is.

The Big Day The next morning I was getting ready for brunch, running late and annoyed that everyone else was moving at a snail’s pace. My Godmother told me that we would leave and everyone else would meet us there so we didn’t lose our reservation. As she drove, she wouldn’t say where the reservation was, but that “she was following Papa’s directions”. At this point I was very hangry and was so confused on why she kept getting lost in a city that she knew so well. 

Finally we turned into Castle Park leading to Warner Castle and Sunken Gardens; a beautiful place I went to often during high school just to be alone and think. My Godparents also had their wedding photos taken there. When we got there my Godmother pretended not to know where we were, which was not amusing to me (facepalm). I reminded her and asked her why Papa would send us here and she only said “Maybe he has a picnic setup.” and you can only imagine my hangry rebuttle. Again- FACEPALM. 


As we turned the corner of the castle, there was a photographer and I thought we were in someone else’s pictures as it’s not uncommon for people to take wedding, senior, and family pictures there. I kept stepping back telling my Godmother to move away and do the same…until I saw the handsome man that is my future husband now in his best navy suit carrying flowers. He completely surprised me! He walked me down the beautiful cobblestone stone stairs I used to spend hours on until we got to the middle of the garden. I couldn’t stop talking since I was so nervous until I asked him if this was it and all he did was smile, got down on one knee, and asked for my hand in marriage. 


We took pictures and my head was still spinning. I cried, laughed, and was speechless the whole way through. We went to brunch with my God family and Dan told me that we would actually be driving an hour to go and see my mom, sisters, and extended family since my Brother-in-law had his graduation the same day. Later that day we drove down and celebrated my Brother-in-law’s achievement and it was the first time in a long time that all five of my mother’s daughters were all together. The day was so much more well thought out than I could’ve imagined. I was so grateful and full of joy and honestly words can’t even describe my feelings that day. We didn’t share the news until three days later after we had time with my family and to ourselves. 

After The Fact There were some things I did not put together throughout all of this which I’m sure you guys could tell. Actually I missed a lot, so this is going to be a list as I sit here and laugh at myself. 

  • Dan called my Godmother to ensure they would be home that weekend. And yes, he did ask both my mother and God parents for my hand, which I found thoughtful. 
  • When he saw me packing, he made my Godmother call me and tell me to pack something nice for a “brunch”. 
  • When I called him the night before he was already in Rochester. Instead of being at a sports bar, he was in his hotel room with ESPN on in the background. 
  • The morning of, he was texting my Godmother as she was getting “lost” in the city. 
  • He started planning this in March, which I find to be so impressive. 
  • He chose the date 5/12/18 for a very distinct reason and I cried twice as hard. 
    • 5: The day we had our first kiss.
    • 12: Our anniversary day.
    • 18: The day I shared the Sunken Gardens with him. 
  • He built my ring based on a picture of a ring I had saved from more than two years ago. 

The Ring

Dan had my ring custom made locally at Allen’s Jewelers, which is owned by the most amazing family! Their diamond dealer is actually from Rochester which only made my ring more special. So here’s the breakdown of my dream ring! It’s a 14kt yellow gold band with a white gold head holding the main diamond of the trilogy setting. I have a princess cut diamond in the middle with two round cut diamonds on each side. Within my band, there are 16 smaller round cut diamonds as well. I have detailing within the band which is one of my favorite things about the ring itself! 

Wow- that was a lot, but I loved writing this! I’m so glad I was able to share such a special day with you all. I would love to know about your special days, so leave me a comment below! If you have any questions, feel free to leave them below as well. As always, thank you for stopping by and I’ll see you next time!

xx Alicia

Getting to Geraghty: My Person

Hi guys and welcome back! This wedding post was going to be more about the proposal itself, but I thought it would be more important to talk about my relationship with Dan, as well as another important issue that I’ve mentioned before- mental health. I’ve rewritten this post about four times making sure I was being transparent, but also going back and editing things out of fear, but I reminded myself that I promised relatable and truthful content to you guys. That’s what you all deserve.

Dan and I have been together for over 4 years, but have known each other for 6 years since we met sophomore year in college. Two of those four and some years were actually long distance, making trips back and forth between North Carolina, Ohio, and New York. When I moved down to Charlotte in 2016, it was the best and worst year in our relationship. We were adapting to living together, I was home-sick, and we hadn’t spent over a week together in two years! Through all of this, it’s worth knowing I’ll be marrying the man that has supported, fought, and loved me through some of my hardest and darkest times. While raising me higher, building me even stronger, and loving me harder at my best times. (I know mushy, but I mean it!)

Now our journey has been anything but smooth. Just like any relationship, we worked through trust issues, past burdens, future aspirations, and priorities. We challenged and continue to challenge each other on personal opinions, career decisions, our goals and more. Most importantly, we struggled to understand each other mentally and emotionally. It takes a lot to understand how someone thinks and feels, which we have worked so hard to communicate and share with one another to learn.

With that said, this week has not been an easy one unfortunately for me. I have probably cried more than five times for a multitude of things…and yes I’m aware it’s only Wednesday. For seeing my family on Facebook and feeling like I’m missing out. For losing some unsaved pictures and items on my computer. For the fear I have of my upcoming genetics tests. For just feeling alone and stagnant. I can’t explain every overwhelming moment and how in less than two seconds I found myself crying hysterically. What I can explain is the love and light that wrapped around me once Dan caught me in the moment or I talked about it with him after.

This post was important for me to write because I think it’s so important to praise your partner. To thank them for what they give you every day that’s intangible. Dan is my person. He is why I am comfortable sharing my struggles. When I am at my lowest, he will bring me to the highest point of  happiness. He is the man I will spend the rest of my life with and I couldn’t be luckier because I found a person willing to invest in me just as much as I invest in him. We are partners, we are equal, and we do not judge. We lift, support, laugh, love, and most importantly listen to each other.

We are still a work in progress because individually we still are as well. Embrace this because life is ever-changing and I hope we are still like this at 50 because that will mean that we have never just settled. I urge each of you to find that person. It doesn’t need to be a significant other. I truly believe everyone needs at least one person to go to that will understand that their feelings are valid and although they may not be able to describe them, they still support you. You are not mentally unstable, you just work through things differently. I got lucky and found mine at 19, but it was an acquired adjustment. I also wish for all of you to find a supportive significant other in life at some point, so that you have a consistent listener. Everyone deserves to break down once in awhile and have someone else help put you back together, especially in the comfort of your home you’re building. I do not find that to be weakness, I fully believe that it takes strength to do such. It takes strength to struggle, be vulnerable and ask for support or help.

Mental health should never be ignored. That is why I am so grateful to have a future husband that believes in its importance just as much as I do. A man that when down, does not blink an eye when I shower him with love just as he would me. This post may not have been a wedding update, story, or list. But it was a post dedicated to the true reason for even having a wedding…because I have found my person that makes me better, wiser, funnier (although he doesn’t agree), and stronger- in every facet of my being.

If you made it through this, I thank you for letting me pour my heart out today. Thank you for letting me share my appreciation for this wonderful man. For allowing me to express one of the biggest reasons I wake up everyday and love him more. Why it was so easy to say yes when he asked for my hand in marriage. And for being able to be open and honest talking about my mental health. I hope you all find calm, patience, and strength in someone as I have because I sure have needed him this week. As always, thank you for stopping by and I’ll see you next time!

xx Alicia